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TEACH US TO NUMBER OUR DAYS THAT WE MAY GAIN A HEART OF WISDOM


Sometime in October, I started working on my reading list for the year 2018. I completed the compilation of my list last week and thought I should share. At the moment, although I read between two and three books per month, I feel like I am way behind on my reading schedule mainly due to not being able to read as many books during university. I also feel like I am sooooo behind on African literature (I have plans for this). I hope to maintain reading two to three books monthly and write a review of at least one of the books on the review section monthly. Hopefully, in about five years, I’ll be satisfied with my standing reading-wise.

I’ll be listing two out of my three chosen books for each month in 2018. (I tend to allow some flexibility for my third choice just in case a couple of new books I really like are released or I change my mind)

Here we go!

January

The Alchemist – Paul Coelho. I believe I have to read the right book at the right time and that’s one of the reasons why I haven’t read Paul Coelho’s The Alchemist yet. It just hasn’t happened! On a train journey from Sheffield to London in 2015, I sat across a young lady with whom I had some interesting conversations with, in the course of which she firmly told me I had to read The Alchemist. I think January 2018 is when this would happen.

Instinct – T.D. Jakes. If you know me well, you’ll know I love Bishop T.D. Jakes. The first book of his that I read was The Lady, Her Lover and her Lord and the articles in his Woman Thou Art Loosed Bible Edition helped me heal quickly during a broken period in my life. I am lagging behind on some of his latest books and I’m hoping to catch up.

February

The Hollywood Commandments – Devon Franklin. Having read Produced by Faith and then The Wait, I can’t wait to dig into the insights and wisdom Devon has for me in this book.

Mere Christianity – C.S. Lewis. I’m excited to dissect this C.S. Lewis classic.

March

The Smart Money Woman – Arese Ugwu. Again, the only reason I haven’t read The Smart Money Woman is timing. Having read positive reviews and received recommendations from friends, this is one book I am eager to read.

The Sleep Revolution – Ariana Huffington. I started this but for some reason never even got halfway. The goal is to read it through.  Love, love Ariana Huffington.

April

Destiny – T.D. Jakes. Another T.D Jakes’ book to catch up on.

Thrive – Arianna Huffington. Another Ariana Huffington book I started but didn’t read through. I can’t wait to finish this.

May

Waiting and Dating – Myles Munroe. We all know Myles Munroe was a don when he was with us here on earth and I am really interested in his insights on dating, waiting and relationships as I am finally gradually opening up myself to this life stage. I definitely want to do things right and the only way I feel I can do it the right way is to allow God lead and guide me. This was what I did as a teenager, I sought out how God wanted me to live and aligned myself based on what I found, these actions albeit coated with naivety and a bit of teenage drama protected me, guided me and helped me stay on the right path. At some point, I felt like I had tried my best to obey God and put him first in every single decision but had still landed in some unwarranted trouble. The die was cast but God came down himself, stretched his right hand and changed situations to favour me. I firmly believe the best way to live life to the fullest is to allow oneself to be led and guided by the Almighty. 

I’m ready to be patient and learn as much as possible about how God wants us to handle this critical life area. I hope to glean from the wisdom of others and hopefully avoid unnecessary hurts, pain and detours. 

Good Morning Holy Spirit – Benny Hinn. I like to read one book that helps me understand the person of the HolySpirit a lot better every year with the overall aim of having a better relationship with the HolySpirit.

June

Understanding the Purpose and Power of Woman – Myles Munroe. Another Myles Munroe book I look forward to reading. From what I gather, it is about the identity of ‘Woman’ from God’s perspective.

Discerning the Voice of God – Priscilla Shirer. From time to time, I hear God speak to me and I see confirmations of the things He has said. I would love to understand God’s voice a lot better and hear him a lot clearer.  That’s why I plan on reading this Priscilla Shirer’s book. I love, love Priscilla Shirer, I’ve been obsessed with her and her messages since 2011, that was my first year of university. I stumbled across her during a period when I was searching for someone new to listen to on YouTube.

July

Unglued – Lysa TerKeurst. I like to read a book that helps with my emotional growth at least once a year. Lysa TerKeurst’s Uninvited did it for me in 2017. I plan to read her other book – Unglued in 2018.

I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings – Maya Angelou. I came across Maya Angelou a couple of weeks before her death in 2014 and in those few weeks, short clips of her on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Youtube videos had taught me so much. I finally have time to read some of her books.

August

Maya Angelou: The Complete Poetry.

Letter to My Daughter – Maya Angelou.

September

Mom & Me & Mom – Maya Angelou.

And the Bride Wore White – Dannah Gresh. I read Dannah Gresh’s And the Bride Wore White when I was 16 and boy am I glad I did. Personally, I think it is a must-read for every Christian teenage girl. I’ll be re-reading it again just to get a fresh perspective on things.

October

Walt Disney: The Biography – Neal Gabler. I am a Disney girl. I grew up watching Disney movies and I am still obsessed with them. I want to know more about the guy who laid the foundation for the Disney Empire.

Shoe Dog – Phil Night. I knew little about Shoe Dog until my brother asked me to get the book for him. Now I want it myself.

November

When God Writes Your Love Story – Eric & Leslie Ludy. I am reading this for the same reasons for which I would be reading Waiting and Dating.

Option B – Sheryl Sandberg. I got given Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Lean In at a Women in Engineering conference at the company where I did my Industrial Placement Year. After reading the book, I bought extra copies as graduation gifts for some friends I had at the time. It was so good a book that was nicely laid out and it hit the right points on the head. Sheryl Sandberg has since suffered the loss of her husband and I can’t wait to read up on her thoughts on facing adversity, building resilience and finding joy. She inspires me!

December

To Kill a Mockingbird – Harper Lee. While watching Youtube videos of The Real Daytime Show, I came across one video in which the ladies discussed whether or not To Kill a Mockingbird should be removed from the school curriculum as some people thought it should be removed. I had heard a lot about this book but I had never read it. I was interested. You see, I spent the majority of my childhood and early teenage years in Nigeria and the idea of being defined or grouped based on skin colour was very foreign to me. It wasn’t until I relocated to the United Kingdom that I recognised that being black was an identity on its own.

It was quite interesting because the idea that was being propagated by society of who black people were or were supposed to be was very different from my own constructs built from living in a West African country – You were human and many other things first… before you thought of yourself as black. You could just be. No need to figure out an identity or belong to one group because of your skin colour. There were no internal or external melanin wars and it was beautiful.

There is so much I want to learn and understand about the realities of being black in a Western society in comparison to being black in an African society and how we (black people globally) have come to be at where we are at now. This would involve me delving into the study of topics like slavery, racism, colonialism etc. and I am starting with To Kill a Mockingbird.

Henceforth, there would be at least one of these books on my yearly reading list. This is going to be a very long study but I am ready to take my time and absorb as much knowledge as possible.

Look and Live – Matt Papa. I am a worshipper. I love worship. I love worshipping God. I have always been in some form of Choir or singing group at Church from primary school through to university and just when I thought I was done with the singing with groups and on stages; I got a word at David’s Tent this summer that confirmed to me that I was meant to continue leading worship in whatever capacity that I could. That led to me joining the worship team once again. There is always something to learn about living a life of worship. Worship is much more than singing in church or leading worship sessions. Worship is a lifestyle! I tend to ensure that I read a book on worship every now and again. I hope reading Matt Papa’s Look and Live would help me burn more for Jesus and allow him to shine his light through me that the world would see his glory on me and be pointed towards him.  



I got Devon Franklin and Meagan Good’s book – The Wait, almost as soon as it was released about two years ago. I came across the book recently on my book shelf and thought I should do a blog post on it. Here are ten excerpts from #TheWait that I find informing and motivating.

Title: The Wait

Author: Devon Franklin & Megean Good with Tim Vandehey

Genre: Christian, Spirituality.

Number of Pages: 243.

  • But why? Why did we consciously delay the gratification – not just sexual but emotional and spiritual – that would have come with diving headfirst into a passionate relationship? The answer is simple: we wanted God’s very best for our lives, collectively and individually, and we wanted it in whatever way He intended. This required patience.

  • Emotionally and spiritually healthy people maintain good balance between fleshy and spiritual pleasures. They date widely but don’t sleep around. They enjoy material comforts but don’t overspend. They live balanced lives by putting God first and still finding ways to enjoy the blessings God has placed in this world.

  • God already has the right life and relationship in mind for you. It may not be with the type of person you have in mind, and it may not be under the circumstances that you think are most desirable. But God knows how to make the perfect match if we allow him match us.

  • In practising the Wait, one of your goals is to create a lifestyle that acknowledges temptation by putting as many safeguards as possible in place. In the interim, while you wait, remember true sexuality is about confidence, intelligence, and connection. Cultivate these things in your relationship and sex will be beyond compare.

  • Scratch the surface of a lot of unmarried young women and you’ll find a layer of fear just below the surface. Fear of being alone. Fear of not having children. Fear of being judged and found wanting. Fear of being less of a woman. Fear of being inadequate, insufficient, not good enough. Fear of not being all you were called to be by the time you think it should happen.

  • I was publicly and privately ridiculed at times by some who knew of my commitment, even to the point of people questioning my sexual orientation. It hurt me deeply. These were the challenges I had to battle. Yet even at my weakest, there was a voice in my head that kept saying, “Keep going.” Even when there was no end in sight, even when I couldn’t turn to anyone but God to give me direction and strength, I knew that buried inside the commitment were keys to an amazing life. I can tell you now I was right to have faith. The incredible personal and professional success I have is directly related to my decision to wait – Devon Franklin.

  • An obsession with sex, wealth, and power diminishes men. That’s bad but what’s even worse is that the reckless pursuit of women demotes many men to little more than walking, talking libidos – primitive animals barely able to control their sexual urges and willing to trample everything in their path just to “get some”.

  • You’ll have to sacrifice plenty in order to wait. But that’s okay. The Wait gives men permission not to stoop to the expectations of others. It absolves men of the need to reinforce the male stereotype. And anyway, after a while, the whole peacocking thing really loses its appeal. Every child of God has an innate desire to do more and be more. So get to it, man.

  • Smart women know that sex is power, and waiting is the ultimate act of claiming that power. Celibacy is control. Since most men date in the hopes of having sex at the end of a date, you’re the one calling the shots. Of course, there’s a fine line. It is possible to use sex as a weapon or a tool – something that should be avoided.

  • The two of us orbited each other for four years before we finally started dating. If God means for you to be with someone, He will bring you together though the obstacles seem insurmountable.


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